Today is my son’s 12th birthday!! Yay. For his birthday, we take him out to his choice of restaurant. This is where my dilemma comes in.
He wants to go to a place where there is literally nothing on the menu for me to eat. I’m totally okay with this – I will go and not eat. I really want him to enjoy his birthday dinner and not have to worry about his dumb old mom’s stupid disease limiting where he can go. My disease limits where he can go so often that I want him to enjoy his birthday.
But my husband says that he needs to be considerate. My husband thinks he needs to find a place where I can eat too. There are several places that we can all eat together that are safe for me, so we could go somewhere else. Furthermore, my husband thinks he is old enough to start being considerate of other’s needs even when it is your birthday.
Also, the restaurant in question is Italian. I’ve been several times for a variety of reasons. They don’t have gf pasta. The salads are cross contaminated. There is literally nothing there. They will even tell you that they have nothing for me to eat. It’s okay and I’m not going to make a stand with this restaurant at this time. I normally just take my business elsewhere, but this time it is slapping me in the face. Furthermore, I’m not going to take in my own food. I can wait an hour to eat my dinner if I need to.
This is a tough one – At what point does your birthday trump other people’s needs? Or should he really be thinking of me for his birthday dinner? At what age do we start having our children think of other’s needs before their own? How selfish is it of me to even ask him to change his choice?
Anyway, that’s the dilemma. Any advice is welcome.
PS. – Still thinking about Nexvax. I don’t have anything new just yet.